Touch, the physical connection.
Since a young age, we need humans, we need to trust/distrust, we need the love, we need reassurance, we need a hug, we need warmth, we need a reaction to our actions, we need touch.
Yet in our teenage and young adult years, we are looked down because we have a need for humans. How silly of our society--to put it nicely. We get told to ignore when we are ignored, to not look for people's names to appear on our phones, to enjoy the lonely nights with no one around us, and to not expect praise for all we do. And I wonder, if this is all we've ever known, if it is embedded into our humanity, why do we fight so hard against it?
My thoughts are a little all over the place on this one, and I'm not sure I'm articulating what I want to say. But my point is that we should touch, we need reactions, interactions, and we should not feel guilty about these things.
I'll share where this hit me. Last Saturday I visited my boyfriend, we only spent about three hours together, but I'm sure in this time I could count how many hugs/caresses/kisses I received. I admit it's not something I am used to and it's why it hit me. We are a couple who is very "lovey dovey" and a great deal of that comes from being apart at least 6 days a week, we have that need to feel that we're actually there, to feel the warmth and affection. I brought it up to him, and we discussed it and why it was so, and so it hasn't reoccured. But driving home that day I felt very unwanted, and it was an issue I've never had so we are clear to not repeat this.
So I want to say- touch.
We humans need it, and if you read this I just want to say that it is normal to have a need to be needed and to be wanted, of course there are realistic expectations that we must adhere to. But, if you don't feel wanted or needed and dwell in that lonely space [note: there is a difference between the lonely space and alone space] then I do encourage you to go out and look for friends who will make it clear that you are wanted, valued, appreciated, needed and that you make a difference.
touch
təCH/
verb
- 1.come so close to (an object) as to be or come into contact with it.
- 2.handle in order to manipulate, alter, or otherwise affect, especially in an adverse way.
noun
- 1.an act of touching someone or something.
- 2.a small amount; a trace.